Dear Society

Dear Society

I write this letter to you, not to complain per se, but rather in a concerted effort to set the record straight ( or to set you straight). I feel that I owe it not only to myself, but to thousands of other people out there that I honestly believe feel slighted by you Society, they feel the heavy pressure which you Society have, in your lack of wisdom have placed on their shoulders!  This letter is therefore written in the public interest, to voice the inner thoughts of the voiceless. 

Society, I would like to know who bestowed upon you, the divine right to decide that at a certain age, say 25/26 one ought to put on that white dress and walk down the aisle towards the so-called knight in shining armor.  ( I must say never in my life have I found the thought of a man on a horse in silver armor to be appealing at all- if anything I would run in the opposite direction).  

It is as though if you happen to be 27 (like i am) and not married ( or not in the process- like myself)  something has gone horribly wrong in your life journey!! You, Society use phrases such as: you ave missed the bus, didn't you get the memo?, do you want to be wheeled down the aisle ( ok this one came from my cousin who was 12 years old at the time).

So dear Society I say to you:

1. I Nyiko Khoza refuse to be bow to your propaganda. I refuse to accept your definition of what I ought to be. I refuse to conform to your mediocre standards. I refuse to live my life according to your timeline. 

2. Please refrain from darting your eyes to my left hand trying to see whether I have a jewel of sorts adorning my finger....because I don't have one. ( trust me, when I do get one you will not miss that rock, it will be big enough to be declared the next Wonder of the World)

3.  When you meet me, please refrain from looking around me to see where my 2.5 kids are....because I don't have them.

4. Please refrain from making a concerted effort to make me feel out of place at weddings and social gatherings that are not engineered/structured for the single 20 something year old. 

Society, has it ever occurred to you that perhaps I have not adhered to your prescription of getting married at 25 or having the 2.5 kids before my "biological clock runs out of time"; out of carfeully considered choice? Society, has it ever occurred to you that my God  knows the plans He has for me, and that His plans are so much greater than yours ( no offense)?

Don't get me wrong, Society, I'm not saying I'm never going to get there (refer to an earlier blog post titled: it's not (just) about the white dress).. However, I shall get there, if I so choose, in my own time, in my own season.  However, my wedding will be an intimate afffair, per invitation only, and you Society are not invited thank you very much. I may consider sending you a postcard though. 

So please Society for now, just sit down. 

Signed, 
Nyiko Khoza, a leading single lady in her 20s ( oh yes, I'm not afraid to shout it from the rooftops!!!!)





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