Feelings Don't Lie

Feelings don’t lie

You can never tell the heart what to do.
It has a mind of its own.
It is your compass, forever guiding you, and forever shielding you.
The heart has your best interests at heart, at most times anyway (lol).

Feelings don't lie.

At times the heart and the mind find themselves at loggerheads; on opposite ends of the unseen battlefield where the heart wants what it wants and the mind too wants what it wants.

The mind likes to think of itself as rational, logical, pragmatic, prefers to take calculated decisions and operates from that which can be seen by the naked eye.

Important as the mind may be, the heart however is the essence of who you are. It is your authentic self—the core of your being. It is where all your dreams, your desires, and your passions live. It is that part of you that connects with God and other people.

Important as the mind may be, I, myself accord a higher premium to the role of the heart vis-a-vis that of the mind when it comes to matters of the heart. I give my mind limited jurisdiction when it comes to matters where only the heart can lead.

Feelings don't lie.

The term 'feelings don't lie' was coined during a conversation while enjoying dinner with three very good friends of mine under the night sky of White River in Mpumalanga on 4 November 2011. And little did I know at that point that the phrase would hold very true for myself in only a few short hours.

The term came about as a result of a very robust and heated debate on the role of the heart when deciding to embark on a relationship (or choosing a suitable partner). To cut a very long story short, the gist of the discussion was that one can never tell the heart what to do because it wants what it wants. The following example was put forth by one of my learned friends (lol): an independent, career driven and well resourced woman could find her heart drawn to a man who happens to be unemployed (by choice or circumstance), or in a lower income bracket than herself. And even though in her mind the 'independent' woman might have vowed never to involve herself with such a man...she may find herself torn. Moral of the story: at the end of the day Feelings Don't Lie, and try as she may to use her mind to justify why she can’t pursue such a relationship her heart will never lie to her. Now this is but one example (albeit shallow), and there are a myriad of other factors which could be at play in one’s mind about whether or not to give feelings of the heart airtime.

Feelings don't lie.
I believe that it takes strong person to love wholeheartedly, to love without reservation, to love without fear (1 John 4:18), to love without limit and to offer your love without a hundred percent certainty that it will be reciprocated. This is the purest way to love.

As Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116 says:  If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
Feelings don't lie.

On the other hand, perhaps it needn't be a case of the heart versus the mind? Perhaps it needn't be a zero-sum game? Perhaps a happy balance is possible?  Perhaps what is needed is for one to possess a strong mind and a tender heart?

Whatever the case may be, all I can but do is to write about what I know.
Feelings don't lie and I know this too well *happy smile* .

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